LIFESTYLE: New Year, New You

(Necklace from @scouting_for_pearls)

So here it is, 2018. I know I’m late to the party but I didn’t want to do a clichè ‘New Year’ post. I don’t know about you but I don’t see the point in New Year Resolutions (apart from making a conscious effort to drink more water). I hate the prospect of leaving it until the turn of a new year to decide to change something or ‘be a better person’. I think if you set goals its better to set regular ones throughout the year.  I’ve certainly felt since we entered 2018 there has been a sea of instagram posts from one blogger to the next desperate to share their resolutions, goals, namely how we can become better versions of ourselves (the latter I’ve literally seen 50 times & with that caption!). I’ve got to be honest I’m a little bored of it aren’t you? Because who wants to read everyone else’s goals anyway? Focus on your own!

(Star sign notebook from @the_home_trend)

So why did I have no resolutions? Is it bad that I don’t feel the need for self improvement? Or is it ok to be happy and content in who you are and what you have in life? Or do you have to keep going and going and going until when? If you don’t set goals are you dead in the water? So (in the voice of Carrie Bradshaw) I got to thinking.

I think I’ve possibly said it before, definitely among friends, that my biggest achievement in life has been being a Mother. Maybe that sounds absurd to a ball breaking career minded girl but it truly is one of life’s most precious gifts and it has enhanced my life to a point where nothing will top it and I don’t need anything to top it. I don’t strive to be better than anyone the same as no-one is better than me. I’m just content in being me and doing what I do and I’ve never felt the need or desire to compete even as a Mother  (because believe me competitive parenting is a thing!). Two of my fave’ ever quotes:

‘Because she competes with no-one, no-one can compete with her’

‘A flower doesn’t compete with the flower next to it, it just blooms’

My ‘goals’ are more personal. Goals to me are about being healthy and being alive and being blessed and thankful for my beautiful family. I hope when my daughter’s are my age now they will appreciate me and think I’ve been the best I could and that they will always want to talk to me and turn to me if they have any worries. I want to be the kind of mum that when the time comes for them to have their babies, they can’t contemplate doing it without me by their side. That right there is my life goal. So I don’t have ‘bag goals’, or such like. I’m not going to be a hypocrite yes I like my nice things but they’re not life.  I dont live my life wondering what bag or shoes I can buy next. I don’t feel my self worth depends on what I have in my closet. I feel fortunate and lucky for what I do have. I feel fulfilled.

(Star sign notebook from @the_home_trend)

So no resolutions here and it’s not that I think there’s no room for improvement I totally believe in self growth. For me it’s about taking a look back on what I’ve learnt and experienced that year and how that shapes me as a person. I’ve learnt alot this past year about people and expectations of behaviour. We truly don’t all think and act the same and you don’t get to your thirties without having experienced something to conclude this. Life lessons are what evolves us into the (better) people we become. We create ourselves in our minds eye so everyone has been influenced probably since childhood with things or behaviour that impressed them and everyone has very different ideas on what they are impressed by. Kindness, happiness, inclusion and friendliness impresses me.

Always be impressed people – not things or followers.

Here’s to making lots of memories, good times and the special moments ♡


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